It’s wedding season ! Time to choose your Mother of the Bride dress ? With so many factors to take into consideration one can get quite overwhelmed. Fear not Mothers’ of the Bride, here are some guidelines to help you choose your ideal Mother of the Bride dress .
It is customary for the Mother of the Bride to purchase her dress first. Her choice is meant to subtly indicate what the Mother of the Groom should wear. However, this approach can be a little old-fashioned, not to mention a little unrealistic, especially if the moms live on different continents. Best advice: Just play it by ear, and try to be flexible and considerate after all it’s not a competition.
Mother of the Groom
As the Mother of the Bride it is the ‘done thing’ to give the Mother of the Groom a heads up regarding what colour dress she is wearing. This helps prevent overdressing, clashing colors, and other fashion faux pas. However it is not a requirement, especially if you’re worried about seeming pushy or bossy or a control freak. Try to sound as friendly and non-territorial as possible: “I finally found a dress that fits! Do you know what you’re wearing yet?” Chances are the Mother of the Groom will want to know more. Of course, she might be totally disinterested, but if that happens, don’t sweat it — you’ve been heard.
Divorced family situations can get sticky so it’s always best to remain neutral in the dynamics. Don’t worry about the Groom’s stepmother. He’ll let her know what you (and his mom) are wearing. You risk offending the Mother of the Groom if you formally involve her ex-husband’s wife in the game plan.
Dress Colour Restrictions for Mother of the bride dress
Traditionally, avoiding dresses in the white, ivory, and champagne colour family to avoid looking like a bride. Black gowns,red gowns and anything that will look too flashy. However, it is up to the bride, she could either be sensitive to the color issue or completely indifferent. If she expresses reservation, think about subdued colors in the lavender, silver, burgundy, and blue tones.
Some will set on the “rule” of dress coordinating while some brides really love that matchy-matchy look. But there are countless alternatives. Maybe stay within one color spectrum. For example, if the bridesmaids are in baby blue, for instance, the Mother of the Bride dress can wear navy. But mixing and matching or even adding prints to the scheme can be stylish and trendy too.
Do try to respect her wishes – her opinion should count for a lot, and if she wants long sleeves or if she likes you best in mustard, what’s the harm in obliging? Keep her guidelines in mind while shopping, but the dress you settle on should make you happy, too. Remember communication is key to make sure everyone is on the same page.
Visit our showroom on La Lucia Ridge and let our style team assist you in finding your very special Mother of the Bride dress. Open weekdays 9am to 4.30pm and Saturdays 9am to 2pm.